One of the most common problems that my clients have when they are interviewing people for a job is that they “feel sorry” for the candidates. “I just want to offer the job to all of them!”
I often ask, “Do you know why you want to offer the job to all the people?”
Most people have no idea why they struggle, but the answer is simple: we are biologically wired to include others. We are biologically wired for connection. So, when someone comes in for an interview, and they are nervous, anxious, worried and scared, we want to make it better. We want to help them feel better, and help them succeed in the interview
Here is the disconnect. When you have 300 applicants and 1 job, you will reject at least 299 of your candidates. You may reject all 300, re-post the ad, and keep going. And it is difficult, because we aren’t wired to reject people. You have to be exclusionary when you are hiring, which goes against our humanity and our most basic instincts as humans.
So next time that you are hiring someone, remind yourself of this: instead of “rejecting” someone, you are releasing them into the universe so that they can find their dream job and you can find your dream candidate. It’s a win/win.
Everyone deserves to be happy, especially you. Don’t forget that next time you endeavor to hire someone.